Yeah I think I do know who this is. Sorry to hear about what happened. I’m not gonna lie to you and say it’s gonna be easy, cuz at first, it won’t. Every relationship is different obviously so your “getting over” period is circumstantial. The relationship I was in for close to 5 years became less of a relationship and more of some… toxic routine towards the end. So when we broke up, I tried to make an effort to think less about all the good times & great memories w her, but instead reflect on all the crazy fights and never ending stress that existed in the relationship. By focusing on that instead, I was able to just bask in relief I guess. So when you catch yourself missing them or wanting to talk to them, remember the bad times. Sounds morose but it’s the best way to switch gears. Keep yourself occupied & try to surround yourself w family & friends constantly during the first few days. Never let yourself be alone, cuz that’s when it’s the worst & you’re tempted to text them or etc. Realize that in 5 months from now, you’ll have made it so that you don’t cry every night before sleep, and you can find yourself smiling. In 10 years from now, this will just be a distant memory of the naïveté of youth. It’s been almost a year since I’ve been broken up with my ex, and while I’m
proud of how strong I was to get through it (even having to hear about her getting married just a few months after our break up), sometimes the memories & conversations with her do creep up on me, and I find myself missing her company and nuances - but I take it in stride, realizing that with any relationship, you learn & grow. Not all things are meant forever. it’s part of life, be grateful for the time you’ve spent with them, and live your life to the fullest. You’ll get through it.